Relationship gone sour is another cause of unhappiness. Problematic marital and family relationships impinge on our ability to enjoy almost anything. Individual differences and lack of communication and quality time together are some of the identified causes of relationship break-ups. However, the following are ways to patch things up and improve relationships:

1.     Find a place where both parties can be alone and have a conversation. This way, both parties can discuss things without interruptions and distractions like TV or radio. Agree that the conversation will focus only on the issues concerned.

2.     Refrain from verbal outbursts. Refrain from yelling or the civil conversation will lead to a shouting bout! Do not interrupt while the other person is talking. We must allow the other person to finish his or her piece before we give ours.

3.     Avoid labeling or calling names. Personal attacks will only worsen the situation. We must be extremely careful with what we say. Do away with words that may hurt or put the other party down.

4.     Discuss the problem rationally. We must learn to negotiate and compromise on things we want from one another.

5.     Focus on re-building the relationship. This is especially true for married couples. Spend quality time together. Find time to do something together – like activities or sports.

6.     We must let them know what we want or expect from them. In doing this, we must not demand our partner to change in order to meet our expectations. Focus on the other party’s positive qualities rather than the negatives.

7.     Give and graciously receive adequate support. This will help the relationship to survive and flourish.

8.     Consider all possible options before deciding on one solution to the problem. However, never consider separation or divorce as an option.

9.     Learn to forgive and forget. Give the relationship another chance.